Month: October 2013

what are your views on CBT?

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CBT (Cock and Ball Torture) isn’t something I’m into personally. Genital abuse of any kind doesn’t really get my sadistic juices flowing.  For me – it’s too far down the scale of the types of pain I enjoy inflicting.  

It is something that’s heavily associated with Femdom, at least in porn.  I believe that there are more people out there who  haven’t tried it who think they might like it, but probably don’t.  One of those fantasies you enjoy thinking about but never actually want to do.  Then there are other couples who are really into it and practice it safely, and that’s great.

Seriously though, I’d also be really careful with this one – an inexperienced domme who doesn’t know exactly what she’s doing in this area can cause long-term damage to your most precious region and that’s not fun.  

No#1 Rule of BDSM: Safety first, always.

No#2 Rule of BDSM: Is the person you’ve left in charge of your body as concerned with safety as you are?  If not, don’t let them anywhere near you.

No#3 Rule of BDSM: Educate yourself.  As a submissive or a dominant, you should always be aware of the risks involved and the right and wrong way to do things.

Best of luck.

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How NOT to talk to women on Fetlife

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Ok, before I give you a giggle at some of the more ridiculous private messages I’ve got over the past month on Fetlife, I think it’s important to note that my profile clearly says in HUGE and clear writing that I’m in a monogamous relationship with my submissive and that I’m on Fetlife to share ideas and thoughts, not to engage in intimate conversations or seek any more submissives.  You can see that I’ve replied to some in a desperate attempt to at least make them think before PMing, and others I’ve just… well, they’re probably lost causes.

I’ve blocked any names and images for privacy reasons.

I’m here to educate, not to mock.  I think my next blog should most definitely be about “How to engage in a conversation with a female dominant”. …. I could even change that to “How to engage in conversation with any sane female”..?  Surely it can’t be so difficult?  I guess it is, considering that probably 9 out of 10 messages I get on Fetlife are like this.  No I’m not joking.  

If you have some suggestions for social interaction via BDSM sites, please feel free to send them to me.

EE Cummings

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I Like My Body When It Is With Your
i like my body when it is with your
body. It is so quite new a thing.
Muscles better and nerves more.
i like your body. i like what it does,
i like its hows. i like to feel the spine
of your body and its bones,and the trembling
-firm-smooth ness and which i will
again and again and again
kiss, i like kissing this and that of you,
i like, slowly stroking the,shocking fuzz
of your electric furr,and what-is-it comes
over parting flesh….And eyes big love-crumbs,

and possibly i like the thrill

of under me you so quite new

E. E. Cummings (1894 – 1962)

http://www.poetryfoundation.org/bio/e-e-cummings

Sensual weekend session

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Hazy weekend.  Probably smoked too much.  It helped with the inevitable frustration that I feel after having gone an entire week without orgasming and the pain and the PMS-rage.  Stupid period.  As well as managing to complete the entire of Dragon Age 2 in one weekend, we also had some fun.

I picked something out for him to wear and gave it to him, telling him to change upstairs.  I went with a cute red dress, black suspender belt, stockings and black heeled boots.  He also wore his chastity device. I sat him down on a cushioned, wooden chair.  I bound his hands behind his back to the chair with PVC tape and bound his ankles to either side of the chair so his legs were spread apart.  I tied his chest and neck to the chair with some rope, meaning if he leant forward or attempted to get free, the rope around his neck would prevent him.  I warned him to remain calm and still or he may hurt himself through mild choking. 

I then blindfolded him and let him sit there for a few minutes.  When his blindfold was removed, he found a vibrator strapped between his legs and some sensual lesbian porn on the screen in front of him.  I told him to watch the screen.  I sat behind him for a while, kissing his neck, cheeks, shoulders, touching his body, feeling it tingle and shudder at the prospect of the vibrator.  After a while, I turned the vibrator on.  It was about an inch away from his cock.  I left it on, so that he could feel the vibrations of the air around him, knowing it was there, but not actually being able to feel it.  

After a while, I noticed him starting to shift around, wanting to be touched.  I moved the vibrator closer so that it was in direct contact with his chastity device.  He moaned immediately and attempted to keep his body still while he was enjoying the pleasure of being touched.  I reminded him that he needed to keep watching the screen.  At this stage, the lesbians were licking each other and I could see that he was very close to cumming.  He was leaking everywhere.  I told him to remove the chastity device and he did so, I allowed him one hand to do this and immediately tied it back up again once the device was removed.

I turned the vibrator off and sat behind him again, holding him by his neck, forcing his head in the direction of the porn.  I nibbled on his ear, kissed his neck again, licked his lips, whispered in his ear.  I reached down with my hand and started toying with his cock while I had my other arm around his neck.  I stroked him slowly, but powerfully.  I used the vibrator a few more times to tease him, putting it up against my hand so that he could feel the vibrations as I stroked him and eventually, brought him to orgasm.

I untied him and held him for a bit, stroking his beautiful long hair.  

BDSM and Abuse

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scarlettrouillard:

This is really important to me.  I just got out of an abusive relationship, and I hope that no one ever has to feel like I did.

The Thinker of Tender Thoughts

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fantasticarepickles:

this makes my heart ache

Silverstein always has been, and always will be my favorite poet because he doesn’t even need words in his poem to make people open their eyes.

Vintage Lingerie Ahoy

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This awesome site which sells some beautiful classy vintage lingerie.

I discovered it here: 

http://www.reddit.com/r/crossdressing/comments/1o3mos/crossdressing_lingerie/

As well as that, they have another part of their site: 

Our newest section called Hommes aux Femmes is dedicated to lingerie with an extra helping hand for cross dressers (CD), transgender (TG), male to female (MTF), femme/en femme ladies. We are still in the process of adding stock such as breast/vagina prosthesis; shapewear with built in prosthesis and speciality bras so please do keep checking our pages for new items.

Vintage Lingerie Ahoy