Month: November 2013
I follow a lot of other dommes and a few submissive men. It’s always interesting for me to read what other people get up to and well, generally, d/s relationships. The dynamic fascinates me and the people participating are usually incredibly interesting and fun to read.
I don’t follow heavy porn blogs – i.e. blogs that are 99% visual gifs of porn or photos of naked women. Doesn’t appeal to me in the slightest. The person behind it might be interesting, but for me, the blog itself isn’t.
I follow blogs of interesting people who have interesting things to say.
I follow some modern-feminist type blogs, funny blogs, political blogs, blogs to do with topics that i’m interested in such as gaming, cannabis, literature, art, fantasy, music, culture.
I’m starting to put a list together of my favourites here. http://gamerdomme.tumblr.com/links
I am your Domme and I take my job very, very seriously. I spend a lot of time getting to know who you are, what you’ve gone through in your life, what your submission looks like… and, what it doesn’t. I need to know not just what all your boundaries are, but why you have them. I want to poke around in all the dark corners of your brain, and see what you have hiding back there, behind all of the cobwebs. I want to look at all of your carefully constructed walls and then take them apart, piece by agonizing piece. I want raw, brutal, unfiltered honesty. I want to see the you that you don’t show the rest of the world. I want to push your limits and show you that you are much more than you think you are… that you are capable of more, that you can give me more.
When we are “playing”, I am not catering to an audience. I don’t see, hear, smell or taste anyone but you, in those moments. Sometimes, I will take more than you were willing to give. Sometimes, there will be demands made of you that you don’t think you’re capable of meeting. I want to leave you shaken, torn, emptied… and then slowly put the pieces back. Not where you had them, but where I want them to be, because they are my pieces, now. I want you to be satisfied with your experiences. I want you to glow inside, knowing that you are mine and mine alone.
There is an overwhelmingly violent attraction to your vulnerability. It makes me lick my teeth and eye you like my last meal. It makes me want to both devour you and nurture you. It’s a terrible duplicity that leaves me vulnerable, too.
Intimacy colours everything. I am completely and utterly in love with you and while sometimes, it’s terrifying, it’s completely worth it. I can barely remember what my life was like before I met you. What I was like. I feel like me now.
I very much enjoy the softer, more sensual play lately, as I’ve gotten to know you over the past year. It’s something I like to dabble in more and more frequently. Using and teasing your body, moulding and shaping you into what I want. It’s almost an art form. I think there is merit in it… in playing to someone’s sexuality, in surprising them with moments of intense pain instead of overwhelming them with it… in handfuls of hair and dark whispers. I enjoy nothing more than watching you writhe and squirm and moan. I love knowing that I’m responsible for your extacy, your loss of control.
I smile and add it to the list of things I enjoy doing with you. It’s a surprising revelation to me. I am not soft and gentle. I’ve never been described as that. I’ve been described as intimidating, but never gentle. We’ve grown together, you and I.
In 2013, we learned digital surveillance by governments across the world knows no bounds.
Their national intelligence and investigative agencies capture our phone calls, track our location, peer into our address books, and read our emails. They often do this in secret and without adequate public oversight, violating our human rights.
We won’t stand for this anymore.
Over the past year, 300 organisations have come together to support the International Principles on the Application of Human Rights to Communications Surveillance.
Today we’re launching a global petition supporting the 13 International Principles alongside a range of international NGOs including Access, Chaos Computer Club, Digitale Gesellschaft, Electronic Frontier Foundation, OpenMedia and Privacy International.
These thirteen Principles establish the human rights obligations of governments engaged in communications surveillance. 
They’ve been developed over months of consultation between internationally-recognised technology, privacy, and human rights experts.
Can you join people from around the world to lend your name and support to the Principles?
The Principles make clear:
States must recognise that mass surveillance threatens the human right to privacy, freedom of expression, and association, and they must place these Principles at the heart of their communications surveillance legal frameworks.
States must commit to ensuring that advances in technology do not lead to disproportionate increases in the State’s capacity to interfere with the private lives of individuals.
Transparency and rigorous adversarial oversight is needed to ensure changes in surveillance activities benefit from public debate and judicial scrutiny, this includes effective protections for whistleblowers.
Just as modern surveillance transcends borders, so must privacy protections.
We’ll deliver the petition to the United Nations, world leaders, and other policymakers who need to hear the voice of the people demanding an end to mass surveillance.
Please support the principles by adding your signature, and encouraging those around you to do the same:
Temperatures dropped to below zero this weekend. This meant we had the fire on pretty much non-stop all weekend, which was nice. I love having a cosy open fire.
We played Path of Exile most of the weekend. It was really fun – got our main characters up to level 61 and we’re on the last act in the final difficulty mode, which means engame is coming up soon. This will of course involve more farming and grinding, but the gameplay is fun and the progression is interesting, so it’s holding my attention pretty well. We had several gaming breaks over the weekend.
I fancied one such break on Saturday and decided upon a snuggle next to the fire. I laid some duvets out and blankets and got him to bring up some pillows for extra comfort. We lay there for a while, holding each other, in front of the fire, listening to it crackle and feeling the heat on our backs. It was peaceful, serene. I thought to myself “more couples should do stuff like this”. Just to take an hour out of our day and spend some time together, in each other’s presence and company.
We chatted for a little bit and my hand eventually wandered downwards to gauge his reaction to possible playtime. He responded well, smiling at me and moaning quietly when my hand brushed his cock. I produced some massage oil and sat upwards, having him lie on his back in front of the fire. Oil is something you have to be particularly careful with being so close to the fire, I put the fire guard up, just to be sure nothing would spit out at him or cause him any distress. I brought him ever so slowly to orgasm with long powerful strokes, lots of oil and lots of attention. I felt like he was on edge a little bit and later learned that he was having some pain in his eye – a burst blood vessel or something, that could have been the cause of it. He enjoyed the orgasm anyhow and I cleaned him up and held him for a little while. Later on, we had a little smoke and he repayed the favour, artfully bringing me to orgasm from nothing. I was surprised at how fast I came with very little thought, although, I guess my actions earlier, watching his reactions to my teasing was still very fresh in my mind.
Sunday was lazy – sausages for breakfast, a nice Sunday roast dinner and lots of gaming. He had suggested the previous evening that today might be a “green day” (a day in which, I can paint him with green body paint all over and have my wicked way with him – weird fetish of mine), but the temperature and our energy levels were both substantially lower. I’d much rather it on a day where we both felt energetic and well, warm. Instead, we got really stoned, had a shower later that evening and I sent him to sleep after some nice oral, hand and vibratory stimulation. I think the shower desensitised him a little bit, I still think he enjoyed it, but perhaps not as much as he normally would have done. It seemed to take a lot of “effort” for him to cum. He said that it’s nothing I’ve done wrong, but I felt the need to go off and read up on lots of technique articles today. Not just to brush up, but to learn what other people do.
I think it’s important that we pull our resources as much as possible on topics such as sex. Sex is one of those things that can either make you really really happy or really really miserable. It’s also one of those things that I think, in our society, is incredibly overlooked as a way to attaining happiness. Everything seems to revolve around ideals of people getting married, having babies and buying as much crap as possible before they die when, in reality, that shit doesn’t necessarily make you happy. If more people were open about sex and what they do and don’t like – pegging for example. If you suggested “pegging” to most straight men they’d be like…. What? that’s gay. In reality, a lot of pleasure can be gained from it. A lot of people hide who they really are and what they really like because of how society has shaped them into thinking how they “should” act. What’s so wrong with just being yourself?
I’m so glad I found your blog. There are many things I feel I can relate to, and that you inspire me to do (e.g. writing erotica). You also give me hope that my long distance relationship with the man of my dreams (also a sub) will last. =)
Ours started off as a long distance relationship. We met about 4 years ago and have been only living together for the last year. It was worth the wait…. life is good. Best of luck to you.
I feel like I haven’t written anything in a while. Partly because I’ve spent the last week with a horrendous cold, partly because we’ve spent a lot of time this week smoking so haven’t been as active as we normally are. The evenings are so cold at the moment that it’s hard to exist out of long, cosy dressing gowns and blankets.
We’ve almost taken it in turns to orgasm this week. I had one night where I played with him for so long he ended up becoming numb – used a lot of the wand vibrator on him – and came so hard I thought he was going to faint. We had another night where I lay back and let him work his magic on me – he’s so good at knowing his way around my body – and he made me cum so hard that I soaked the bed.
We’ve also been playing a lot of path of exile this week with our guild. Last night was particularly fun being one of the cutthroat race events… like a pvp race done with a party. We ganked and got ganked. I hope they do more events like that in the future. After that, instead of watching TV, we listened to music for a bit on the sofa and ended up downstairs, listening to music and watching our starlamp bounce across the ceiling. We talked for hours, about all sorts of things.
One thing that occurred to us yesterday was how much time people spend cleaning their houses. I’ll be the first to admit that our house is pretty messy. We have cleaning sprees where we clean up for an hour or two, whenever the mood (or need) takes us. The rest of the time, in the evenings, we spend enjoying each other’s company, playing games, bathing together, listening to music, watching a film or a series. How great it is not to have children and to be able to enjoy life like this. I really enjoy having that freedom and having fun.
I don’t think I could ever be one of those people who have kids (no disrespect meant, it just isn’t for me) and spend their non-work hours looking after it. Happy with my lovely little obedient princess and my crazy old cat. I love my life.