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Gentle Bonds: Starting Out

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Be you Dom/Domme or Sub, there are a few things you should know as you take your first steps into the BDSM world.

1. Respect. Your partner(s) is/are just that. Partner(s). Respect and consent are crucial. Outside of an Absolute relationship, the word “NO” is always to be listened to. Subs—You do…

Gentle Bonds: Starting Out

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I’m sorry that your wife treated you so badly. Not all women are like that.

I’ve been with a guy with a micropenis before. At first, I didn’t quite know how to react to it. But then it turned out he was fairly skilled with his fingers and tongue and well, in this day and age, there are countless toys (of which my collection is vast!) available on the market that cocks have generally become fairly defunct anyway. I wasn’t disappointed by the end of it. I tried to make him feel comfortable in my presence. What I’m trying to say is – not every domme will powertrip all over the place at the size or lack of cock. Don’t feel forced into something you don’t like or you don’t want just because you think that’s the only option or only fit. It’s not.

My ex was 10 inches. I took some pride in that at the time, but looking back and knowing what I know now, it seems very foolish. He was terrible in bed. Selfish. Dominant. Rude. Obnoxious. Thought his size made up for all his other horrendous flaws. It didn’t. I left him for my current partner who gives me everything I need and crave. I’ve never been into extremities as such, cuckold is an area that kind of makes me cringe (although each to their own). I guess I’m more of an affectionate domme.

I don’t get a kick out of being cruel. I like my sub to know that there will be an end result that will make them satisfied. I like to treat him with respect because if he’s not having a good time, then I’m doing a bad job. He’s my responsibility.

I wash him. I buy him clothes. I feed him. I do his laundry. But I don’t mother him. He takes care of me when I’m sick or I’ve had a bad day or am feeling a bit down. He does the cleaning and tidying and fixing of things. To any onlooker, we’re probably quite a normal couple, except that most days he’s dressed in feminine clothes that I’ve picked out for him and we have a much larger collection of “toys” than the average person.

My advice: Find someone that treats you like a person first and a submissive second.