Best Advice I’ve read for a long while

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This is really great advice. Thank you. As a 26 year old female, it’s hard to see everyone you know getting married but not feeling like you’re quite there yet. I plan on waiting til I’m a bit older, and I try to do some of these things daily but it’s nice to see it written out so well and be reminded what’s important for your relationship AND yourself as an individual.


My 20’s were full of (other peoples’) weddings. My 30’s are full of (other peoples’) divorces. I only know a couple couples who are still together. Almost literally all the marriages I witnessed are over now. When I was 26 I too felt left out, or left behind, and nervous that I needed to find someone and get married. My ex-boyfriend was about to propose 5 years ago but he decided to cheat instead. Bullet dodged. My SO is in the middle of a nasty divorce. All of my girlfriends who married are divorced. I’m 36— and it’s crazy out there.


I am 28 and for a long time I felt so alone. I am in a five year long relationship with someone I’m still not sure about marrying. I’m not sure because all of the people I was jealous of, because they found someone they wanted to take that big step with, are now in the middle of nasty divorces or custody battles. I’m not even 30 yet and I currently know more people who are divorced, will be divorced soon, or are staying with someone that they are extremely unhappy with their SO but won’t leave for whatever reason than I know that are happily married. I’m constantly asking myself if I want to put myself in that situation when I can easily just walk out the door right now and never have to speak to him again if I felt like it.


You’re welcome. I was far too young and inexperienced to know what is needed for a relationship to last 40+ years. Well, we both were. Getting married, having kids and moving to the burbs shouldn’t be your life’s dream. What will you do when your kids are all grown and out of the house?

Work on yourself, a lot. Do things you want to do. Gain experience and yes, you can have kids and move to the burbs if you want. But don’t stop doing what you love to do because when you’re older and your kids have moved out you need something to do. It may as well be what you’ve always loved to do.


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You know that friend you have on Facebook who’s always going on about how AMAZING it is to be a parent.   Here’s what their life is really like.


Some random thoughts in a weekly summary

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I feel like I haven’t written anything in a while.  Partly because I’ve spent the last week with a horrendous cold, partly because we’ve spent a lot of time this week smoking so haven’t been as active as we normally are.  The evenings are so cold at the moment that it’s hard to exist out of long, cosy dressing gowns and blankets.  

We’ve almost taken it in turns to orgasm this week.  I had one night where I played with him for so long he ended up becoming numb – used a lot of the wand vibrator on him – and came so hard I thought he was going to faint.  We had another night where I lay back and let him work his magic on me – he’s so good at knowing his way around my body – and he made me cum so hard that I soaked the bed.

We’ve also been playing a lot of path of exile this week with our guild.  Last night was particularly fun being one of the cutthroat race events… like a pvp race done with a party.  We ganked and got ganked.  I hope they do more events like that in the future.  After that, instead of watching TV, we listened to music for a bit on the sofa and ended up downstairs, listening to music and watching our starlamp bounce across the ceiling.  We talked for hours, about all sorts of things.  

One thing that occurred to us yesterday was how much time people spend cleaning their houses.  I’ll be the first to admit that our house is pretty messy.  We have cleaning sprees where we clean up for an hour or two, whenever the mood (or need) takes us.  The rest of the time, in the evenings, we spend enjoying each other’s company, playing games, bathing together, listening to music, watching a film or a series.  How great it is not to have children and to be able to enjoy life like this.  I really enjoy having that freedom and having fun.  

I don’t think I could ever be one of those people who have kids (no disrespect meant, it just isn’t for me) and spend their non-work hours looking after it.  Happy with my lovely little obedient princess and my crazy old cat.  I love my life.