CBT (Cock and Ball Torture) isn’t something I’m into personally. Genital abuse of any kind doesn’t really get my sadistic juices flowing. For me – it’s too far down the scale of the types of pain I enjoy inflicting.
It is something that’s heavily associated with Femdom, at least in porn. I believe that there are more people out there who haven’t tried it who think they might like it, but probably don’t. One of those fantasies you enjoy thinking about but never actually want to do. Then there are other couples who are really into it and practice it safely, and that’s great.
Seriously though, I’d also be really careful with this one – an inexperienced domme who doesn’t know exactly what she’s doing in this area can cause long-term damage to your most precious region and that’s not fun.
No#1 Rule of BDSM: Safety first, always.
No#2 Rule of BDSM: Is the person you’ve left in charge of your body as concerned with safety as you are? If not, don’t let them anywhere near you.
No#3 Rule of BDSM: Educate yourself. As a submissive or a dominant, you should always be aware of the risks involved and the right and wrong way to do things.
Best of luck.
Ok, before I give you a giggle at some of the more ridiculous private messages I’ve got over the past month on Fetlife, I think it’s important to note that my profile clearly says in HUGE and clear writing that I’m in a monogamous relationship with my submissive and that I’m on Fetlife to share ideas and thoughts, not to engage in intimate conversations or seek any more submissives. You can see that I’ve replied to some in a desperate attempt to at least make them think before PMing, and others I’ve just… well, they’re probably lost causes.
I’ve blocked any names and images for privacy reasons.
I’m here to educate, not to mock. I think my next blog should most definitely be about “How to engage in a conversation with a female dominant”. …. I could even change that to “How to engage in conversation with any sane female”..? Surely it can’t be so difficult? I guess it is, considering that probably 9 out of 10 messages I get on Fetlife are like this. No I’m not joking.
If you have some suggestions for social interaction via BDSM sites, please feel free to send them to me.
Hazy weekend. Probably smoked too much. It helped with the inevitable frustration that I feel after having gone an entire week without orgasming and the pain and the PMS-rage. Stupid period. As well as managing to complete the entire of Dragon Age 2 in one weekend, we also had some fun.
I picked something out for him to wear and gave it to him, telling him to change upstairs. I went with a cute red dress, black suspender belt, stockings and black heeled boots. He also wore his chastity device. I sat him down on a cushioned, wooden chair. I bound his hands behind his back to the chair with PVC tape and bound his ankles to either side of the chair so his legs were spread apart. I tied his chest and neck to the chair with some rope, meaning if he leant forward or attempted to get free, the rope around his neck would prevent him. I warned him to remain calm and still or he may hurt himself through mild choking.
I then blindfolded him and let him sit there for a few minutes. When his blindfold was removed, he found a vibrator strapped between his legs and some sensual lesbian porn on the screen in front of him. I told him to watch the screen. I sat behind him for a while, kissing his neck, cheeks, shoulders, touching his body, feeling it tingle and shudder at the prospect of the vibrator. After a while, I turned the vibrator on. It was about an inch away from his cock. I left it on, so that he could feel the vibrations of the air around him, knowing it was there, but not actually being able to feel it.
After a while, I noticed him starting to shift around, wanting to be touched. I moved the vibrator closer so that it was in direct contact with his chastity device. He moaned immediately and attempted to keep his body still while he was enjoying the pleasure of being touched. I reminded him that he needed to keep watching the screen. At this stage, the lesbians were licking each other and I could see that he was very close to cumming. He was leaking everywhere. I told him to remove the chastity device and he did so, I allowed him one hand to do this and immediately tied it back up again once the device was removed.
I turned the vibrator off and sat behind him again, holding him by his neck, forcing his head in the direction of the porn. I nibbled on his ear, kissed his neck again, licked his lips, whispered in his ear. I reached down with my hand and started toying with his cock while I had my other arm around his neck. I stroked him slowly, but powerfully. I used the vibrator a few more times to tease him, putting it up against my hand so that he could feel the vibrations as I stroked him and eventually, brought him to orgasm.
I untied him and held him for a bit, stroking his beautiful long hair.
Last night, I took him down to bed early. I picked a pretty red dress, black suspender belt and tan stockings for him to wear with long silky pink gloves. I lay in bed and watched him get dressed. He’s a little bit more gentle now with the stockings. I could do it for him so that the stockings aren’t damaged or laddered but then, he’d never learn.
Once he’d finished dressing, he climbed into bed and lay down beside me. Those beautiful big blue eyes staring up at me from the pale hue of his ivory skin. His long pretty hair draped over his shoulders suggestively. His lithe arms reaching up to me indicating that he wanted to be held. I melted as I looked down at him and pulled him close, to warm his cold skin.
I have my period at the moment, one of those long, heavy, painful “catch-up” periods. I haven’t had a period in a few months so this period is going out of it’s way to make me feel all of the missed ones all at once. I felt pretty horrific. Sore stomach, swollen sore breasts, limited energy reserves. None of that stopped me wanting him, not even for a second. I’d been aroused all day from looking at sneaky pictures of him on my phone.
There we lay, bodies close together, I started touching him, very gently. He responded better to my gentle touches than he did to my heavy strokes so I decided to be gentle with him this evening. Each gentle touch felt like heaven on my fingertips. His body reacts so beautifully, he squirms around and moans softly, letting me know I’m touching the right places. I began stroking his cock, gentle but powerful strokes. He almost came. I told him that it was too soon and that it would be a while before I’d let him cum.
I turned him over onto his side so that I had full access to his pretty bottom. I lifted his skirt up and applied plenty of lubricant to his little ass, making sure to give it a good rub. I lubed up the toy that I’d planned on using that evening – which was a prostate stimulator (Nexus Excel) – and began inserting it slowly into his ass. His body reacted almost immediately and he moaned and wriggled. I placed a hand on his hip to steady him and slid it inside him. When it was all the way in, I wiggled it a little and played with it for a little bit while lying behind him. He lay there and took it like a good little sub and I decided after a while, to step things up a little.
I turned the wand vibrator on (which is mains powered so very powerful vibrations) and rubbed his thighs with it, to let him know what was coming. I teased him a little by placing the vibrator on the tip of the toy that was protruding from his ass, gently at first and then full-on. He moaned and squirmed in pleasure as the vibrations ran through his body. Suddenly he froze and his body had gone entirely rigid. I turned the vibrator off and asked if he was ok. ”Do you mind if I go for a pee?” he said, in a meek little voice. I chuckled, “of course not”. He exited the room so I used the opportunity to reposition myself for what was to come.
When he got back, I told him to get on his hands and knees. He obeyed and stuck his little ass out. I reached underneath him and felt his cock with one arm and had my other hand on the toy sticking out of his ass. I made him hard with a few simple strokes and began stimulating both areas at once. Within about a minute of being fucked by both hands, I heard his little cry for release “can I come please? please?”. ”Yes you can” was my reply. I kept him on edge a little more by changing the tempo of my strokes or tightening and loosening my grip. At this stage, all of the rope in the world wouldn’t have held him down and he was moaning really loudly, I decided to let him release. His body shuddered in my hands as his orgasm hit.
I was happy. He told me that it was a very intense one. That made me happier. I tied his hair back and told him to go and clean up. After that, I held him for a while and, after our post-sexytimes cigarette, we drifted off to sleep, both utterly exhausted.